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1-2-3 Magic & The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child: Two Books that Offer Sound, Straightforward Advice on Child Discipline.

In 1-2-3 Magic, Thomas Phelan outlines his deceptively simple approach to discipline. Any time that a child is engaged in a disapproved of activity, the parent gives two warnings followed by a time out. The first warning is indicated by the parent saying “that’s one.” The second warning is indicated only by “that’s two.” Finally, Read More …

Understanding Why Your Son is Challenging.

“His greatest personal strengths are exactly those things that make it most difficult to be his parent,” mom of a challenging boy. Challenging boys have many great personal strengths. They are sensitive, empathic, energetic, driven, persistent, principled, and committed. These characteristics give challenging boys a strong moral compass. They have clear convictions about right and Read More …

Sticker Charts/Reward Charts/Behavior Charts: The Five Most Common Mistakes Parents Make When Using Reward Charts   Reward charts (also sometimes called “sticker charts” or “behavior charts”) are frequently employed by parents to deal with their young children’s undesirable behaviors. When administered properly, a reward chart is a powerful parenting tool. However, in too many cases, Read More …

Cultivating Positive Parenting

Carl Rogers was one of the most important psychologists of the twentieth century and his work, along with that of Abraham Maslow, formed the basis for the creation of today’s Positive Psychology movement. In 1957, Rogers described what he believed were the necessary and sufficient conditions for positive personality development to occur. Fifty years later Read More …

Oppositional, Rebellious, Difficult, Defiant, Explosive, Spirited, Challenging … What’s in a Name?   Who are Challenging Boys? They are kids who get tagged with many negative labels: oppositional, difficult, defiant, manipulative, willful, noncompliant, rigid, angry, temperamental, and rebellious and they tend to make life difficult for their parents and teachers. These negative labels, however, reflect Read More …