It’s year end, the time when many of us make resolutions for the New Year. Here’s the one resolution that belongs at the top of every parent’s list.
Take time to care for yourself.
Being a parent in 2012 was stressful. In a down economy supporting a family can be difficult and work hours seem to be getting longer all the time. We’re busier than ever. As if that wasn’t enough, we expect more of ourselves as parents than ever before. We strive to help our children become successful, good people, who are socially and emotionally intelligent. It’s a lot of pressure!
In 2013 resolve first of all to make sure to take some time to care for yourself. I know, I know, you don’t have the time. But taking time everyday to care for yourself – even if it’s just 5 minutes to stop and catch your breath – will be a great gift to you in 2013 and an even greater gift to your child. A calmer, happier, less reactive you will be able to be a more present, attentive and patient parent.
Great stress busters include getting to the gym, yoga, walking, meditation, relaxation exercises. Even if you really don’t feel you can make time for yourself in 2013, at least decide practice Maitri 2013. Maitri, says Budist monk Pema Chödrön, is unconditional friendliness towards oneself. It’s easy to be hard on ourselves and feel we’re falling short as parents, partners and people. Make 2013 a year to be kinder, gentler and unconditionally friendly to yourself. You and your children will be better off for it!
Happy New Year!
